Better to have

Better to have tried. 

Better to have learned. 

Better to take the risk, 

then let this world 

wear you down.

There are plenty of ways to die,

There are plenty of ways to die, 
but you have to figure out how to live.

When you laugh as much as you breathe,

When you laugh as much as you breathe,

 that's when you realize how beautiful 

life really is.

is full of magic

The world is full of magic, 
you just have to believe.

get so angry that you stop loving.

Don't let yourself get so angry that you stop loving. Because one day you will wake up from that anger, and the person you love won't be there anymore.

There are two ways to look at life.

There are two ways to look at life. 

You can complain that the roses have thorns, 

or 

you can be happy the thorns have roses.

one of natures most fragile things

Snowflakes are one of natures most fragile things, but just look at what they do when they stick together.

You can't hide from life

You can't hide from life. 
Eventually you gotta live it.

when one person is missing

Sometimes when one person is missing, 

the whole world seems depopulated.

an email.

There is a major difference between trying to prove your love and simply sharing your love.

I can't tell you how many times I have in the past tried to prove my love. I've tried to show women and other people how worthy I am, how loving I am, how rad I am.


I realized that I kept doing this because I had yet to truly realize how worthy, loving and rad I was. If I had really known this, I wouldn't have been trying to prove it to other people.


A lot of my mentoring clients suffer from trying to prove themselves to unavailable people. A lot of folks who are writing in toWhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com suffer from this, too.


Here's an exercise:

• Make a list of all the things you wish other people would see about you. Make a list. You wish what? They would see how rad, awesome, loving, supporting, caring, faithful, etc you are? Make the list...

Now, ask yourself if you are demonstrating these qualities towards yourself? The answer is probably no for some or all of the qualities you listed.


So, how would you act if you were actually demonstrating these qualities? That version of you is who will attract people who see you. When you see you, other people will too.


Then, you can SHARE your gifts, your love and your worth with them and receive their worth, gifts and love. This is massively different than trying to prove yourself to someone else.


When we try to prove ourselves to others, it is because we do not see our great qualities and are not giving these qualities to ourselves. Once we do, we step into a new paradigm and walk away from trying to prove ourselves and step into just being ourselves.


Then love, authenticity and all the raddness can emerge.


Love,
Mastin

Just because you are back

Just because you are back 

doesn't mean I've forgotten 

about the pain you caused 

while you were gone.

Stick with friends

sometimes the best way to stay close to someone

sometimes the best way to stay close 

to someone you love 

is being just a friend 

nothing more

nothing less.

Abraham Maslow's 8 Ways to Self-Actualize

1. Experience things fully, vividly, selflessly. Throw yourself into the experiencing of something: concentrate on it fully, let it totally absorb you.


2. Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth): Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.


3. Let the self emerge. Try to shut out the external clues as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on, and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel.


4. When in doubt, be honest. If you look into yourself and are honest, you will also take responsibility. Taking responsibility is self-actualizing.


5. Listen to your own tastes. Be prepared to be unpopular.


6. Use your intelligence, work to do well the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be.


7. Make peak experiencing more likely: get rid of illusions and false notions. Learn what you are good at and what your potentialities are not.


8. Find out who you are, what you are, what you like and don't like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going, what your mission is. Opening yourself up to yourself in this way means identifying defenses - and then finding the courage to give them up.

- Abraham Maslow