Look, I know you think you took it away, but it’s still there. Even if I can’t remember why.
I still feel empty, alone and making me forget won’t fix it. It won’t fix what’s really wrong.
Monday, May 27, 2013
facing life head on.
I don’t know why, but this picture scares me. It’s such a beautiful, peaceful, calm, serene scene, yet she looks like she’s facing life head on. Have you ever had those moments? When you just look at the world and you’re like, “This is what it’s come to.” and for her, it seems like it’s come to drowning herself. Now I pray that’s not true and maybe it’s just how I see the picture but there’s just something about it. The way she moves her left hand, like she’s nervous or scared and how the sky is totally calm and all that stands before her and the ocean, is 10 feet of sand. But I could be totally wrong, perception is everything.
the sweet turning sour and untouchable
I’ve been treated so wrong, I’ve been treated so long
as if I’m becoming untouchable
I’m a slow dying flower, in the frost-killing hour
the sweet turning sour and untouchable
His pledge to her:
i will kill the spiders. i will share my fries with you when you’ve finished all yours and are still hungry. i won’t ever pop my collar. i will never be rude to your tummy- when i hear it growl and gurgle. i promise to bend down and reply respectfully. i will eat the mushrooms when we order the supreme pizza. i will kiss the papercuts. and the door-slammed finger, and the counter-bumped hip. i’ll try my hardest not to get annoyed when you whisper questions and comments during movies. i will be the big spoon. i will let you win at wrestling, sometimes. other times i will not. i will go faster. harder. i will pull when you want. and tease you when you don’t. i will send you random texts and leave you silly gifts. not always. not on schedule. just whenever i want to. whenever i think you need one. or seven. i will check your tire pressure. and remind you to take your car in. i will hold your hand. i will love you. i will love you. i will love you.
The most painful thing to see
The most painful thing to see is when tears roll down someone’s face and they’re completely silent.
~ Margaret Thatcher
Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It's not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it's when you've had everything to do, and you've done it.
Studying Tips For When A Test or Exam is Coming Up Soon
These are studying tips that might be useful for you for the last 2-3 days leading up to an exam or test.
1. When you have 2-3 days before an exam or test, be sure that you have already understood all your lecture notes and done all your readings and problem sets. The last 2-3 days should be about reviewing materials a second or third time and not spent learning materials that you should have already understood.
2. I don’t advise to ask last minute questions to your teachers or professors since you should have already done this earlier, but clearing up any last minute confusions can still prove helpful. Since you will be pressed for time, I’d also suggest asking questions that you think will be on the actual exam.
3. Since you will probably be anxious from the tests/exams coming up, ensuring that you have prepared well ahead is really helpful when it comes to minimizing exam anxiety.
4. Get enough sleep and avoid all-nighters. The last few days should be about maximizing your cognitive capacities so you can perform your best on the test day. Lack of sleep really impairs our ability to recall materials and causes a lot of stress.
5. In terms of notes and problem sets that you should be reviewing for a second or third time, ensure that you spend your last 2-3 days picking out the most important questions or sections of your notes to review. You’re pressed for time so you want to be as efficient as possible.
6. Reteach the materials to another person. Since reteaching the materials help you test how much you actually know, it’s a great chance to help you figure out area that you might need last minute revision on. Furthermore, reteaching the materials help you remember it better.
7. Come up with your own questions that you predict will be addressed on the exam. I often pay attention to what’s emphasize during lectures to help determine the sort of questions I would get asked. Then practice answering those questions with as much accuracy and details as possible 2-3 times over.
Here’s a video that I created a while back discussing a systematic approach to studying for psychology exams: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muF7MPOfr6c&feature=plcp
I take you as my bride, I have the right…
“Before the auspicious moment goes by, let the rituals be done.. Let there be no distance between the vermilion and your forehead.. This is the wedding altar, the scared fire, the festive home.. At this wedding altar, in God`s presence, in this festive home, to anoint you with vermilion.. I have the right…
I take you as my bride, I have the right…”
Things to Remember
- Accidentally close a tab? Ctrl+Shift+T reopens it.
- Bananas release dopamine, eat them when you’re sad.
- CTRL+SHIFT+ESC is the one handed version of CTRL+ALT+DEL
- Don’t brush your teeth hard, it makes them sensitive and removes enamel.
- Don’t like spiders? Put citronella oil on your walls and they will not go there.
- Drink one glass of water for every alcoholic drink you have, you’ll get drunk without getting a hangover.
- Get clear ice cubes by boiling water before freezing it
- Heal paper cuts and immediately stop the pain with chapstick.
- If you accidentally write on your dry erase board with a permanent marker, scribble over it with a dry eraser marker to remove it.
- If your shoes smell, put them in the freezer overnight, it will kill the bacteria.
- Make bug bites stop itching with a banana peel.
- Make a paper longer with 12-point text, but 14-point periods and commas.
- Need to get around a blocked website at work? Try replacing the http:// with https://
- Never send your resume as a word file (unless asked) Instead, save it to a pdf file, it’s much cleaner and professional looking.
- Pick a flavor of gum you don’t normally chew, and chew it while studying during a test.
- Place a piece of bread in a container with your homemade cookies and they will stay soft.
- Put a dry towel into a dryer with wet clothes, they will dry faster.
- Put toothpaste on a pimple and it will dry out.
- Practise fake smiling in the mirror every day before going to work/school, you’ll genuinely start to feel happier.
- Rub canola/olive oil on knives before cutting onions, you won’t cry, alternatively chew gum and you won’t either.
- Short on time with a wrinkled dress shirt? Hang it up in the bathroom while showering to steam it flat.
- The night before, place things you don’t want to forget the next morning on top of your shoes.
- Use hydrogen peroxide to remove blood stains from clothing.
- When cleaning windows use newspapers or coffee filters instead of paper towels, they will not leave streaks.
- When microwaving bread products/pizza put a glass of water in with it, it will keep your bread from going spongy.
- When you move into a new place you’re renting, take pictures of any and all damage, then post them on facebook (privately if preferred) so you can use the reference date as proof you didn’t do it.
- When searching plane tickets online delete your cookies prior, prices go up when you visit a site multiple times.
by Gaby Dunn
If You Love Someone, Never Touch Them
I’ve said this before but I think the people I have truly loved are the ones I’ve never touched. They are the people that have never hurt me, the people who have never disappointed me, the people who have never gotten close enough.
If you love someone, I recommend never touching them. That’s how to guarantee they’ll love you forever. See, if you touch them you become real and no one likes what’s real. If you never do, they’ll think of you as a fleeting fantasy, a magical mystery, and they’ll truly love you. You think, because you love them, that you want to be with them but you don’t. If you’re with them, they might see you cry, they might see you without make up on, they might see you as you truly are — alone, in your house. Once they see that, they won’t be interested in you anymore and they certainly won’t love you.
The best possible scenario for you to be in with someone you love, I think, is to be their friend. A friend is someone full of potential. They will never see you every morning, hungover, eating cereal over the sink. They will imagine you don’t do things like that. Not like their partner. Their boring, same-old, familiar partner. You will be better. You will have the power of ethereal distance. You will be their port in the storm and they will sigh with relief when they see you.
You will be there when they need to get away from their partner or when they need to just relax and forget everything. You! As the person they’ve never touched, who has never touched them. You get to be there and to hear their complaints and to seem “really chill.”
If you touch them, you get placed in another category. You become a risk, don’t you see? You become fragile like a time bomb. You lose your shiny newness. You lose your wonder. You become someone they talk to their confidantes about, rather than being the one who they feel close enough to to confide in. It all makes sense, right? Once you touch them, it’s all over.
Here is what happens then: You are happy for a little while. Then, you fight or they don’t like something you do or they go to the bathroom after you and smell your poop, whatever. Next thing you know, they’re at the bar with someone else telling them that you just “really stress [them] out sometimes” or that they just needed “like, one night away you know?” And you’re at home, wishing they’d open up to you, heart broken. Suddenly, you get it. It all makes sense. You should never have touched them. You should have just stayed their flirtatious, innocuous, understanding friend. You would have had them then. More than you do now even though they sleep beside you.
As their friend, you will be around a lot longer than the people they have touched. You will evoke no negative, complicated feelings in them. They will never need to “get away” from you. You will never frustrate them or stress them out. You will never make them cry. More importantly, you will never cry. You will be cool, casual, calm. They will wonder how you’re so great. They will tell you you are not like the others and you will wear it like a Girl Scout badge. You will never feel pain and you will never feel anything. Be untouchable and therefore impenetrable. You are a rock. You are an island. They will side-hug you and tell you they love you, and you will never stand on the street outside their apartment calling and calling because you just need to touch them again.
That’s my shitty advice — if you love someone and you really want it to be perfect forever, you should never even touch them. Take it or leave it — free from a shitty person.
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