hugging pillows and relaxing =)

Words Of The Wise

I Choose…


to live by choice, not by chance;


to make changes, not excuses;


to be motivated, not manipulated;


to be useful, not used;


to excel, not compete.


I choose self-esteem, not self pity.


I choose to listen to my inner voice,


not the random opinion of others.


I choose…

you ARE!

If a Man Wants you..

A nice reminder for everyone who is in a relationship, was in a relationship, or will be in a relationship…

By: Salma Rumman

This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

1) If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
2) Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
3) Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
4) Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
5) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
6) Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
7) The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
8) Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
9) Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
10) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
11) Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
12) You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
13) Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
14) Never let a man define who you are.
15) Never borrow someone else’s man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

source: http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants#ixzz1hhrzlyFF

After all, inside every confident woman is a...

Princess Diana

Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.

—Maya Angelou

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

26 Life Lessons Learned by Age 26

1. Being an adult can be fun when you are acting like a child.
2. Love has nothing to do with looks, but everything to do with time, trust, and interest.
3. Laughing, crying, joy and anger… All are a vital. All make us human.
4. The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.
5. Greed will bury even the lucky eventually.
6. Bad things do happen to good people.
7. Paving your own road is intelligent only if nobody has gone exactly where you are going.
8. Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge. Hesitation is the product of fear.
9. Time heals all wounds… regardless of how you feel right now.
10. Most of the time what you are looking for is right in front of you.
11. Your health is your life.
12. Chance is a gift, so act on chance when given the opportunity.
13. Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.
14. People deserve a second chance, but not a third.
15. Marry your best friend.
16. Take lots of pictures. Someday you’ll be really glad you did.
17. Money makes life easier only when the money is yours free and clear.
18. Carelessness is the root of failure
19. Your actions now create memories you will reminisce and talk about in your elder years.
20. Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can’t grasp now.
21. Motivation comes in short bursts. Act while it’s hot.
22. Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy.
23. Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success.
24. First impressions are completely worthless 50% of the time.
25. Personal glory lasts forever.
26. If you never act, you will never know for sure.

If you cannot be a pencil to write anyone’s happiness, then try at least to be a nice eraser to remove someone’s sadness.. :)

Loyalty, Honesty, & Trust

A relationship cannot survive on two of these 

core values alone.  It’s all or none.

-The House Rabbit Society

"Everything I need to know I learned from my bunnies"

1. “Meditate and reflect on life frequently”
2. “Be selective about who you let touch you”
3. “Snuggle and kiss with your beloved often”
4. “Digest the newspaper daily”
5. “Eat a good share of fresh vegetables and fruit each day”
6. “Kick your heels up once in a while!”
7. “Be curious about everything in life”
8. “Keep yourself well-groomed at all times and don’t forget to wash your ears”
9. “Avoid those who growl at you”
10. “Never take yourself too seriously”
11. “No matter where you live, you can make it homey and fun with a little rearranging of things”
12. “When frustrated or angry, play with your toys, throw some sand or get someone to hold you”

— Juan “Pedro” Martinez

Never give up until you can’t get up!

― William Arthur Ward

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To hope is to risk pain.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

people write the things

sometimes people write 

the things they cannot       say

what disney taught me

Simba taught that learning from your past gets a better future

Belle taught me that true beauty can be found in your heart

Hercules taught me that being a god, won't make you happier

Ariel taught me that silence is louder than words

Aladdin taught me that that money isn’t everything

Mulan taught me to trust my heart

Pochahontas taught me that colours of your skin doesn’t matter

Esmeralda taught being good to others

is enough

Your value

ATTACK LIFE

it's going to kill you anyways

Gandhi's Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World..

exist or live?

Go ahead

Footprints in the sand [prayer]

One night I had a dream.I was walking along the beach with the Lord, and across the skies flashed scenes from my life. In each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One was mine, and one was the Lord’s. When the last scene of my life appeared before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand, and, to my surprise, I noticed that many times along the path of my life there was only one set of footprints. And I noticed that it was at the lowest and saddest times in my life. I asked the Lord about it: “Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you would walk with me all the way. But I notice that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don’t understand why you left my side when I needed you most.” The Lord said: “My precious child, I never left you during your time of trial. Where you see only one set of footprints, I was carrying you.”

the paradox of life

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.


We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.


We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.


These are the times of fast foods, and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. It is a time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.


Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.


Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

― Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

“There were things I wanted to tell him. 

But I knew they would hurt him. 

So I buried them, and let them hurt me.”

i cannot forget

I cannot forget what you said that time

For it has been ironed onto the walls of my heart. 

Being friends and smiling together doesn't mend

it up. Truly do i care for you and want you happy

but the words you said of ignorance of my feelings 

penetrated so hard and reminds me of 

those words with each gaze of yours. 

Sorry won't be enough, it wouldn't be fair

in fact enough is what I am. i am sorry dear.

but those word tortured me and still does 

going to bed thinking of those hurtful words

begging them to stop. Voices voices in my head

Why did you so carelessly say

Of course you were not aware 

that I'd take it so seriously but i did.   

i'm sorry mate, i cannot forget

How can I admit that i don't know what I'll do if any harm comes to her?

It doesn't matter how happy you are

It doesn't matter how happy you are when you deliberately look for the things that makes you sad. When you shut down and stop caring about others emotions and feelings. That's the moment you should be careful with. Please think twice before you speak. 

For words are as sharp as swords you might not feel the pain right there and then but you'll see the blood and feel the warmth rushing out through the veins. Oh that wound will take years to heal.   

by unknown

boy you forgot she got a heart

She may be young she maybe wild

but boy you forgot she got a heart

of love. You played around tossing it 

back and forth

because of you she is now 

lost in thoughts

When will she find her way back?

when will she open up?

I guess time will tell

since she clearly lost 

her heart~

Does it matter?

Would you be able to live alone, for 

10 years, and meet the one you 

love just once every decade?

......*silence*......

when you can't find a man

when you can't find a man, 

then go make some food
You'll feel better in an instant ;)

pirates

Take what you can, give nothing back.

only human

Loneliness & Ignorance

If ignorance is bliss, why do we fear the unknown?
what you don’t know technically doesn’t exist right?
What is it about loneliness that makes us so cold?
You want to be loved, but get rejected, and in turn
prevents you from the original goal.
blinded by hate and envy,
deafen by sadness and woe
choked by the darkness you never meant to seek out
so familiar and yet so foreign
is the solitude of loneliness
so familiar and yet so foreign
is the innocence of ignorance
hand in hand
how can the 2 stand alone

……. just a thought

promise me one thing

I don't know if I'll be in your life forever

but just promise me one thing that when I'm gone

don't forget what we had and the time we spent.

Pick-up line of the day:

My bed is big enough for two, but is only occupied

 by one. Would you care to join me? 

Motivation: i like this one it's not dirty or clean, its just simple.

"Love is an emotion experienced by the many and enjoyed by the few."

.

Sometimes the person who tried to keep everyone happy is the most lonely person. So never leave that person alone because they'll never tell you.

Sometimes we need to slow down, look around and see do they love us as much as we love thee?

in 10 years

Stranger.

Your’re welcome for the memories,

That keep playing in your head.

The thoughts of me still linger,

Like my scent which stains yours bed.

You knew we weren’t compatible,

But girl you love to dream.

Now the only time you see me,

Is through the couple hours you sleep.

You and I aren’t meant to be,

We weren’t designed to love.

We only crave the comfort,

Of each others lust.

And once our days turn greener,

Maybe we’ll look back and say.

We should’ve just stayed strangers,

We’re better off that way.

I'm tired of going to bed with my heart hurting

are you as tired as me? 
why play all these games? 
why not end them all? 
please be my guest~

Those who dwell among the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life. - Rachel Carson

Please hold me as tight as you can, because I’m not sure if I can stand by myself.

Courage

Many are the troubles we are confronted with,
Life is no more than a troublesome myth,
Reality is so bizarre and weak,
Sadness and fear has reached its peak.


What we lack is the courage to start,
Yet what we need is just a strong living heart,
Gather your wits all in one part,
And face that evil killing dart.


Whatever will happen, whatever it will take,
You are not going to let it break,
Cross the line and break your fate,
And start to try loving what you hate.


You have the right to decide your life course,
But be ready it may be all hollow and hoarse,
Try all that you can but don’t give up,
If in the end, you want the winning cup.


The courage is all that you need,
In your life, that will be the sowing seed,
It may put you in the lead,
But never will it be the weed.


If you think you are missing something,
Its the courage, the courage, in your ears it will ring.

~ Harihara Sudhahar Ramamoorthy

What an empty place the world would be if it didn't have feelings~

      

      

      

Is it crazy of me to feel this way?

I really hope, I'm enough for you
Sometimes I feel like I'm not, and that scares
me because I think you'll find someone who is.
Someone who can give you everything I can't.
Someone "better" than me. Is it crazy of me to
feel this way? Please tell me it is. Tell me
I'm more than enough. Tell me you'll always be here.

He missed her... yet he was the one banning her away with the sentence of death if she ever came back to his kingdom. Oh though he could not stop thinking about her, for yet in his heart he still loved her, over anything else.

to hear someone whisper, i missed you then give one a hug. 

when I'm in a relationship.

I am going to commit when I'm in a relationship. 

I won't cheat on you. I won't do you any wrong.

I won't want to stop talking to you. I won't want to leave you for anyone else. 

I won't do anything to hurt you. I chose you and that means I only want you, no one else. 

Now question remains does this work both ways?

— The Fellowship of the Ring - J.R.R. Tolkien

The Road goes ever on and on
Down from the door where it began.
Now far ahead the Road has gone,
And I must follow, if I can,
Pursuing it with eager feet,
Until it joins some larger way
Where many paths and errands meet.
And whither then? I cannot say.

Don’t leave me hanging

Don’t leave me hanging

In a city so dead

Held up so high

On such a breakable thread

You were all the things I thought I knew

And I thought we could be

a stunning looking man

Zombieland