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Wednesday, March 12, 2014

My teacher told me this story in grade 5. have always remembered it too


There once was a young boy with a very bad temper. The boy’s father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he must hammer a nail into their wooden fence.

On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad!

Over the course of the next few weeks, the little boy began to control his temper, so the number of nails that were hammered into the fence dramatically decreased.

It wasn’t long before the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Then, the day finally came when the little boy didn’t lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn’t wait to tell his father.

Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper.

Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

“You have done very well, my son,” he smiled, “but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.”

The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak.

“When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you’re sorry, the wounds will still be there.”

This was really an amazing and necessary thing to read right now.

Battles

The hardest battle
you will ever have to fight
is between
who you are now
and who you want to be.

How to be Genuine in Relationships

1. Try to be as natural as you can when you’re with others. Just be “you”. Don’t put on a false self and try to be someone you’re not. Accept your flaws and imperfections – as everyone has them anyway!

2. Listen carefully when others are speaking. Give them your full and undivided attention. And really listen when other people are speaking: don’t just act as if you’re interested in them.

3. If you say or do something that’s inept or stupid, then be the first to laugh at yourself. Also, don’t blame others if you do something wrong – you’ll be much more respected if you say that it was you.

4.  Be quick to notice and to show appreciation for other people, and what they do for you. Also, notice their successes and the things that they do well, and praise them openly, so others know as well. (But don’t usually flattery as it sounds insincere.)

5. Be honest (but tactful) when you’re asked for your opinion. That sends the message that you usually speak the truth.

6. Look for ways that you can help other people, as genuine people are sensitive and caring. As a side effect, it will likely boost your mood – and others will be drawn by your inner happiness.

Boys Will Be Boys (And Why That Is The Stupidest Thing You Could Ever Say To A Little Girl)

“when she was 7, a boy pushed her on the playground
she fell headfirst into the dirt and came up with a mouthful of gravel and lines of blood chasing each other down her legs
when she told her teacher what happened, she laughed and said ‘boys will be boys honey don’t let it bother you
he probably just thinks you’re cute’
but the thing is,
when you tell a little girl who has rocks in her teeth and scabs on her knees that hurt and attention are the same
you teach her that boys show their affection through aggression
and she grows into a young woman who constantly mistakes the two
because no one ever taught her the difference
‘boys will be boys’
turns into
‘that’s how he shows his love’
and bruises start to feel like the imprint of lips
she goes to school with a busted mouth in high school and says she was hit with a basketball instead of his fist
the one adult she tells scolds her
‘you know he loses his temper easily
why the hell did you have to provoke him?’
so she shrinks
folds into herself, flinches every time a man raises his voice
by the time she’s 16 she’s learned her job well
be quiet, be soft, be easy
don’t give him a reason
but for all her efforts, he still finds one
‘boys will be boys’ rings in her head
‘boys will be boys
he doesn’t mean it
he can’t help it’
she’s 7 years old on the playground again
with a mouth full of rocks and blood that tastes like copper love
because boys will be boys baby don’t you know
that’s just how he shows he cares
she’s 18 now and they’re drunk
in the split second it takes for her words to enter his ears they’re ruined
like a glass heirloom being dropped between the hands of generations
she meant them to open his arms but they curl his fists and suddenly his hands are on her and her head hits the wall and all of the goddamn words in the world couldn’t save them in this moment
she touches the bruise the next day
boys will be boys
aggression, affection, violence, love
how does she separate them when she learned so early that they’re inextricably bound, tangled in a constant tug-of-war
she draws tally marks on her walls ratios of kisses to bruises
one entire side of her bedroom turns purple, one entire side of her body
boys will be boys will be boys will be boys
when she’s 20, a boy touches her hips and she jumps
he asks her who the hell taught her to be scared like that and she wants to laugh
doesn’t he know that boys will be boys?
it took her 13 years to unlearn that lesson from the playground
so I guess what I’m trying to say is
i will talk until my voice is hoarse so that my little sister understands that aggression and affection are two entirely separate things
baby they exist in difference universes
my niece can’t even speak yet but I think I’ll start with her now
don’t ever accept the excuse that boys will be boys
don’t ever let him put his hands on you like that
if you see hate blazing in his eyes don’t you ever confuse it with love
baby love won’t hurt when it comes
you won’t have to hide it under long sleeves during the summer
and
the only reason he should ever reach out his hand
is to hold yours”
Fortesa Latifi - Boys Will Be Boys (And Why That Is The Stupidest Thing You Could Ever Say To A Little Girl)

It's better to burn than to fade away. It's better to leave than to be replaced.


they won't make you feel like you have to

If someone reeeeally likes you, they won't make you feel like you have to constantly fight for their attention.

remember the three L’s

“My mom always told me to remember the three L’s: live, laugh, and love. She always asked me which was most important and I would say live because if you don’t live you can’t laugh and love. However, she was always there to correct me and tell me love was the most important because if you never find love, you’ll never fully laugh and never completely understand the meaning of living with the one you love.”

these two run a country

the realest thing I’ve ever read.

tie a knot

“When you reach the end of your rope, 
tie a knot in it and hang on.”