10 Tips for Making Friends

1. Listen to people when they’re talking; show an interest in what they have to say.

2.  Make an effort to remember peoples’ names and use them the next time you meet them.

3. Follow up with people you are interested in staying in touch with. Call them up, send them an email or arrange to meet for a coffee or drink.

4. Treat everyone the same – and as if they are the most important in the world (at least while you are talking to them).

5. Get involved in clubs and activities. Force yourself to go out and be with others.

6.  In conversations, stick to safe topics before you know someone well. Don’t be quick to share your political or religious views, or to go on about your pet grievances.

7. Make sure you come across as someone who’s friendly the first time you meet someone new. Greet them warmly, smile, share your name and ask them theirs.

8. Be aware of other peoples’ culture and be sensitive to any potential differences. You don’t want to offend other people – either deliberately or inadvertently. The goal is to be seen as a person who is friendly, respectful and warm.

9. Don’t rush your interactions with people as that sends the message that you’re not interested in them, or what they have to say.

10. Don’t be false – just be your normal self. People would prefer to find out who you are.

How to be a Genuine and Fun-Loving Person

1. Value and respect the fact that you are a totally unique individual, with your own destiny to fulfill. Believe in who you are, what you think and believe, your gifts and talents, and what you have to offer to those around you.

2. Refuse to give into negative feelings of anxiety, self doubt or insecurity. In fact, “fake it till you make it” is often good advice … So, ignore how you feel, and act the way you want to be. Choose to switch off the old tapes that keep on playing in your head, and try to visualize your goals and then push on and seek to reach them.

3. Don’t pay any attention to what others think about you. The most important judgment should be yours, and yours alone. If you live in constant fear of what others think about you, it will only hold you back from realizing your potential. Also, you’re not a clone of others as each of us is different. Don’t be afraid to be unique or to stand out against the crowd.

4. Accept that you have good points, and areas for growth. We’re all a mix of different qualities, and flaws, and traits. We all make mistakes – it’s what you do with them matters – so embrace the fact you’re human and won’t always get it right.

5. Also, develop a tough skin and don’t take insults personally. Look back and laugh – don’t cower – or criticise yourself. It won’t help if you’re sensitive or worried all the time. It’s better to forgive yourself, and then move on again.

6. Develop your ability to think creatively. Try out those new ideas, and choose to live outside the box.

7. Seek to enjoy this moment, and to live life in the present. Be grateful for the small things, and savour all you have.

"When you’re in a garden, which flowers do you pick?"

“

"Mom, why do the best people die?"

"When you’re in a garden, which flowers do you pick?"

"The most beautiful ones."

”

— synsynish

I. Tsunami

The moment I realised I liked you, I told myself I couldn’t. A plethora of reasons forbade me to do so but the heart wants what it wants. I plunged headfirst into the ocean of you; swam in my hopes and dreams, only to drown in my emotions every time I swim ashore to reality.

You are the tsunami of emotions that I feel when I look into your eyes.

II. Earthquake

Albeit the warnings of the danger that looms, my heart was stubborn and foolish. The more time I spent with you, the more I learned about you, and the more I fell. What I wasn’t prepared for was the sudden magnitude of feelings I had for you, even after the tremors subsided.

You are an earthquake that has shattered my soul.

III. Tornado

That night, you kissed me with beautiful words and false hope. Empty promises whispered into my ear that would dance across my skin. I was swept up in your lies, my feet above the ground as I soar high above the city lights. I spiralled out of control and fell down to earth —wrecked.

You are a tornado that destroyed me.

IV. Drought

I hate to admit it but after you left, my heart cracked on every path you have walked on. A now barren land, incapable of supporting new life. How could you breed love when you lacked the necessity that kept it alive? The tears kept on falling even though I was parched.

You are the drought in your leaving.

V. Flood

Time passed and I have learned to heal by stitching the broken pieces with threads of sentences and patches of paragraphs. Writing is my remedy but why is it every time I pick up my pen, all I ever write about is you?

You are the flood of memories that haunts my mind.

Shame on you

You can't force someone to be in your life and then say "Thank you." It's like holding a gun to the side of a petrified person. What isn't given freely is never yours to have.

★~(>‿‿◕)

— psychoticsara

“I’m sick and tired of having this aimless feelings and aimless thoughts, I feel like everything belongs somewhere, I just don’t know where it is .”

The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, by Sogyal Rinpoche. This book over all had the greatest impact on my life.

Most notably there was a poem in this book entitled "Autobiography in Five Chapters", by Portia Nelson:

1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost...
I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in...it's a habit
My eyes are open; I know where I am;
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

5) I walk down another street.


I think of this poem often. It helps me remember how I want my life to be, thus helping me stop behaving in ways that are not conducive to having the life that I want.

Lily Allen - Fuck You

Body Language Cues

Kiss Me
She’s leaning in a little bit, she’s looking at you with an inviting smile, she’s touching your arm, she’s even tilted her head a little… what are you waiting for? Go for it!

Get Away From Me Now
Arms crossed and an annoyed expression? She’s pulling away every time you try to touch her? He’s backing away every time you try to get closer? All of these spell out one thing and we’re not sure what you did but you’d better leave them alone.

Slumped Posture
This could mean a number of things but we’re always sure that it’s a sign of a really bad day. They’re either sad, discouraged, hurt or fearful about something. You should definitely see if they’re going to be all right.

Try It And See What Happens
See, the phrase “try it and see what happens” could mean something completely different depending on how it’s said but the body language here is telling you that something good will happen…

Don’t Even Think About It
The body language here is telling you that if you do decide to “try it” then “what happens” is probably going to hurt. Hands on hips is never a good sign! We’re warning you dude, don’t do it!

Playing with her hair
This one is kind of a no-brainer, if a woman is playing with her hair while she talks to you, she’s probably flirting with you… but she could also be trying to get the hair out of her eyes. Make sure it’s more of a “you’re really cute” gesture and less of a “I really hate my new haircut” sort of thing.

The Handshake
A strong handshake is good but when it’s too strong it could be a sign of insecurity. When it’s too soft, it could mean lack of interest. The best handshake is when your palm touches theirs, it is a sign of sincerity and openness for a good relationship.

Mirror, Mirror
When someone is mirroring what you do, it means that they are on the same page as you. In dating it’s a sign of attraction.

Avoiding Glance
When a person can’t look you in the eyes while speaking it could mean they are nervous but it usually means they are being dishonest about something. When they avoid eye contact while listening, it could mean they are not paying attention, they’re angry or that they have some bad news to admit.

Maintaining Eye Contact
When someone gives eye contact while speaking, it’s a sign of honesty. When someone gives eye contact while listening, it’s a sign of respect.

Leaning In
This is a great sign. If the person you’re talking to is leaning in as you talk, it means that they are completely engaged in you and your conversation together.

Raised Eyebrow
This could mean that a person is confused but it’s also a sign that the person is interested in what you’re saying and they want to know more.

Fidgeting
This is often considered a nervous habit but it could also be a sign of impatience or discomfort. If someone is fidgeting a lot, they may need some comforting words or even some space.

Eye Roll
This one is kind of a no-brainer, they are seriously annoyed by whatever you just said. Choose your next words wisely!

Whisper in the Ear
This is a sign of intimacy and wanting to be closer to each other.

Quick! Grab two things you love.

       

— Ernest Hemingway

“The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.”

In a land of myth and a time of magic…

What are the most difficult and useful things people have to learn in their 20s?

45 Life Lessons Written by a 90-year-old

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for things that matter.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.  Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. 

I just want to let you know that you're both a treat and a treasure ♥

– Charlotte.

Take a shower, wash off the day. 

Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. 

Lie down and close your eyes. Notice the silence. 

Notice your heart. Still beating. Still fighting. 

You made it, after all. You made it, another day. 

And you can make it one more. 

You’re doing just fine. 

Please.

So… you’re saying that Ray is that one person who finally recognizes 

Felicity’s capacities and intelligence? Please.

Do not chase another human being.

“Do not chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, strive to build your own.”

My Sailor Bold

Upon one summer's morning, I carefully did stray,

Down by the Walls of Wapping, where I met a sailor gay,

Conversing with a bouncing lass, who seem'd to be in pain,

Saying, William, when you go, I fear you will ne'er return again.

His hair it does in ringlets hang, his eyes as black as soles,

My happiness attend him wherever he goes,

From Tower Hill, down to Blackwall, I will wander, weep and moan,

All for my jolly sailor bold, until he does return.

My father is a merchant — the truth I will now tell,

And in great London City in opulence doth dwell,

His fortune doth exceed ₤300,000 in gold,

And he frowns upon his daughter, 'cause she loves a sailor bold.

A fig for his riches, his merchandize, and gold,

True love is grafted in my heart; give me my sailor bold:

Should he return in poverty, from o'er the ocean far,

To my tender bosom, I'll fondly press my jolly tar.

My sailor is as smiling as the pleasant month of May,

And oft we have wandered through Ratcliffe Highway,

Where many a pretty blooming girl we happy did behold,

Reclining on the bosom of her jolly sailor bold.

Come all you pretty fair maids, whoever you may be

Who love a jolly sailor bold that ploughs the raging sea,

While up aloft, in storm or gale, from me his absence mourn,

And firmly pray, arrive the day, he home will safe return.

My name it is Maria, a merchant's daughter fair,

And I have left my parents and three thousand pounds a year,

My heart is pierced by Cupid, I disdain all glittering gold,

There is nothing that can console me but my jolly sailor bold.

to be strong

“Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it, accept and learn from it.”

— midnight thoughts

“I wonder if you still think about me. my lips on yours, my hands through your hair. I wonder if you wake up in the middle of the night with my name on your tongue. I wonder if you still think about me. About what we had and could’ve had, 'cos baby we could’ve had everything.”

M/A

— (NJ.) // tired eyes & weary soul but still a beating heart #2

I want to be your passions. Include your frustrations when things don’t go as planned, and you run your hand through your hair or you bite your bottom lip excessively or you make that groaning sound from your throat. Include your fascinations when epiphanies hit you and your eyes sparkle like Christmas lights, or when you discover new things and your lips curve in that half-upturned way, halfway between a smile and a smirk. I want to be the first sip of coffee or the languid way you put on clothes when you haven’t had your coffee yet. I want to be the refreshing moments, like when you just got out of your shower. Or when you laid on your bed after a long, tiring day and you feel the knots on your back unravel. Or when you put on clothes freshly taken out of the dryer. Or when you learn something new, something good, something special, about yourself. I want to be the scent that takes you back to your childhood days when your mom would kiss your bruised knees, or when your dad would lift you up on his shoulders because you were the ruler and the world was for your conquest. I want to be a remembrance of family Saturday brunch, of the first day in kindergarten and the excitement in your eyes, of playground swings, and of making blanket forts with friends. I want to be your favorite song. Oh I wonder what it would be like to be the melody that soothes you. The music that creates slow dances in your heart and spins your soul into circles. Maybe I just want to be any song that knows your heart thoroughly and leaves imprints of memories in its wake.

i love the way she puts it xD

— Haley Mae

tell me words aren’t powerful
go ahead
I dare you
I dare you to tell me that
words don’t make you feel things
tell me you don’t feel anything when your father told you you’re worthless
tell me that
tell me that you have no emotion
because darling
you ignorant fuck
I want to fix you
I don’t know what it is in me
that wants to fix everyone
I want to tell people what they are worth
i want to make them feel something
but most of the time people think I’m crazy
and I’m always afraid I will come on too strong
and maybe thats why I write it down
maybe that’s why people tend to call me quiet
maybe that’s why I’ve always been a bit unwelcoming
I’m afraid of what I have to say
because I’m afraid it will be to brutally true
but then again
maybe it could fix you

— Haifa Hasim

What do you tell yourself when you find yourself crying in the bathroom for a good half an hour?

What do you comfort yourself with when the only thing you find yourself with is your tears?

What do you do to help yourself when you find yourself so knocked down by disappointment that you can’t breathe through your sobs?

What do you do when all you can think of is how heavy your head are with anger and how low your knees have bent?

What do you do when your sadness can’t seem to wash off even after so many tears shed?

What do you do when you thought you’ve cried enough but you were terribly wrong?

What do you do?

— rainbow-writing

“I’m sorry, I didn’t think

that caring about you

was such a crime.

Thirteen Word Story

You ripped the stitches

out of my heart.

Eight word Story

I am a wilting daisy,
while she is a stunning
blue rose.
Twelve word story

My heart shattered.

Loudly. Yours didn’t

Six word story

Don’t tell me you hate

me. I will fall apart.

Ten word story”

— C.S. Lewis

“Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. 

There are many things below it, but there are many things above it. 

You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, 

but it is still a feeling… knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; 

but feelings come and go… But, of course, ceasing to be in love need not mean 

ceasing to love. Love in this second sense - love as distinct from being in 

love - is not merely a feeling.”

— Peregrine

“Just as a child knows
a favored toy in the least detail,
with instant longing
and with desperate need
from the moment it is gone
until the time it comes again to hand,
your lips against my throat.”

Worldwide Got Talent Funny Auditions ( TOP 10 BGT, AGT, UMT etc. ) [Part 1]

“If I’ve learnt anything in 2014,

“If I’ve learnt anything in 2014, it’s that you should tell people how important they are to you. Not because they could leave at any moment, but because they’re here now, and it’s worth saying something.”

Love Facts

The top 10 accents according to the study :

1. British 

2. American

3. Irish 

4. Australian

5. French

6. Italian

7. Spanish 

8. Scottish 

9. Latin American

10. Scandinavian 

♥

— Him

“You’re my
happiest hello
You’re my
saddest, painfullest,
most heartbreaking goodbye”

The Secrets To Overcoming Your Problems And Putting Your Life Back On Track

 1. Write down everything that's hurting you in your life... thoughts about ex girl/boyfriend... memories of your friends... things your siblings said to you. 

2. Collect anything you might find related to these memories - pictures, letters, phone numbers - anything that you've written about her/him, about your friends, or events that hurt you in your diary, online, email, social media. Collect all of it. 

3. Put all of this together in a metal trash can - do this outside your house. 

4. Then light all the stuff on fire - (if you're afraid of fire, then just rip up the paper and throw all this in the trash or flush down in the toilet)

5. When you're burning these past hurtful memories say out to your self, "Thank you for what you've taught me - I now release you to the universe!"

6. Delete all her/his pictures, phone number etc - and then say in your heart - "Thank you _____ (her/his name) for everything you've taught me. I release you to the universe. Have a great life."

If you don't do this - you will keep focusing on her/him and the things she's doing and won't allow yourself to feel love from anyone else. You'll be stuck in a dangerous downward spiral in your life and wont be able to get out of this. 

But by doing this you will release all the pent up energy inside you. Release her/him and the hurt inside you, so you can feel love in your life. 

Happy National Women’s Day!

A woman can preach, a woman can work, a woman can fight. A woman can build, can rule, can conquer, can destroy just as much as a man can.

Kelly Fox shocks and rocks! | Week 5 Auditions | Britain's Got Talent 2013

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