Here in Sweden it's summer for real! I got yet a week of studies left before i have my exam next Friday and it's a tough one. Most of you guys are probably off school and enjoying the weather and i hope you are having a wonderful time.
It is very easy to start being self-conscious about yourself during this time, i mean some might not want to go and swim because they don't have the Summer 2013 body (me included) - STOP right there! To help you with those thoughts here is a list on "
How to Stop Feeling Self Conscious"
Why do you feel self conscious? Is it the way you look or the way you think you look? Who is judging you and why do you care about their opinions? This article will provide some strategies to help you decrease feelings of self consciousness that interfere with everyday life.
- Identify what you’re terribly conscious about. A certain aspect of your appearance? The twitch in your eye? Your accent? Your Disability? Your intellectual abilities? Make a list of these things and next to each item, write something you can do to improve it.
- Figure out who you’re trying to please and why. What kind of expectations are making you so self conscious? Do you feel this way in front of your crush? Is everyone around you picture perfect, or are you comparing yourself to airbrushed models in magazines? Have you convinced yourself that no one else has twitches, or flaws, or trips? Stop for a second and turn that self-criticism outwards. No one is perfect, and you’ve never noticed their little quirks before, so why would they pay so much attention to yours? Just feel like there’s no need to worry and always picture yourself like you know you look and feel good in front of others, but don’t think about it too much because it will already be embedded.
- Redirect your attention. When you start to feel self conscious, locate a target - it doesn't matter what it is, it may be the bug crawling across the floor - and concentrate on it. What color is it? How many legs? Anything that turns the attention away from yourself will do the trick.
- Make fun of yourself. Yep, that’s right—not in a self-depreciating sort of way, but in a humble and witty way to acknowledge that you’re not perfect and you don’t care. After you drop a jar of peanut butter in front of someone you fancy and watch in horror as it shatters into pieces and splatters peanut butter chunks on the floor, burst out laughing at your inherent clumsiness, cracking a joke that you should be required to wear double-sided tape on your hands—and then apologize and help clean it up!
- Build your self confidence. Make an effort to gain a deeper understanding of your self-worth. Replace your worries about what other people think about you with a preoccupation over your own goals, achievements, and progress.
- Work on changing the inner you. You have to realize that you are part of the whole existence, just like everyone else. This is a fact of life and nobody can take it away from you. It is your birthright. Understand that no one is better or more important than you.
- Just let it be. Don’t care about it too much, if you feel self-conscious. It will be OK.
- See the pattern of thoughts which come in to your mind while you are sitting idle or working. If the thoughts are about what others are thinking about you,then beware. Don’t allow the mind to harp on these thoughts. Same thoughts repeated create a channel, and then you are forced to go through that channel when the opportunity arises.
- If you are becoming self-conscious while speaking to people, then immediately listen to what the other person is talking about. Focus on the words, and that will do the trick. Listening is a great ability and one can overcome being self-conscious by being a good listener in conversations.
- The feeling of “I am” is always constant. If you try to remember your childhood, and try to think about your “I”, the “I” was always the same irrespective of age or situations. The “I” does not depend on anything. It doesn’t grow big or small, only apparently we feel that it changes or that it depends on anything. So understand deeply that your existence does not depend on anything or anybody. Such thinking itself is a big boost to self-confidence.
- The moment you let someone judge who you are, is the moment you have lost your happiness to someone else. Don’t let other people tell you who you are. This is your life, not theirs.
I hope this list helps and remember that it's your heart and brain that will carry anything forward. Love yourself because i already do :)
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